Being a parent

Parenting isn’t easy..it is the hardest but the most rewarding, the most beautiful experience of our lives. It comes with the most insane unexpected challenges as well as moments that literally fill our hearts with so much emotion and happiness that it seems unreal.

I’m Sonya and I’m a Mom of three wonderful children. I had my first kid when I was 25..My eldest is 6, younger than her is 2 and a half and the youngest just turned 1 yesterday. That makes it two girls and one boy. If I could sum up my life in a few words. I would say my life is beautiful! and it’s beautiful because of these three amazing little humans in my life.

I’m literally on a roller coaster every single day of my life and I’m sure many of you can relate to it. In the middle of waking them up, preparing breakfast, packing lunch boxes, sending one to school, keeping the other two entertained at home, getting the house cleaned up, making lunch, getting the laundry out of the way, ironing, putting the little one to sleep like almost 5 times a day, changing pampers, washing bottles, dealing with tantrums, sibling fights, guests, evening activities, story times, homework, cartoon time, showers, fixing cupboards, doing the dishes, making dinner, wiping tears, healing the bruises, giving lots of hugs throughout the day, making beds, keeping things around the house organized at all times, grocery, let’s not forget the criticism we get from everywhere and countless other things that I can’t even think of right now because by the time I’m done I feel like my brain has stopped working. This is the life of a Mom..that’s just how it is. No I’m not a perfect pinterest Mom, I’m a regular Mom who is on the verge of tears at least once a day but still puts a huge smile on her face and moves on embracing the beauty of it because hey! that’s what real parenting feels like. Would I change anything about it? No! I love my kids sooooo much that its impossible to explain.

It’s A LOT of hard work..it is also A LOT of fun!! I mean would you want to miss even a single smile or giggle or mischief or anything at all that comes with the whole parenting package. My 2nd born asks 1 question like 50 times a day but what can I say..its clearly too important for that little human in my life 🙂

Once you reach that point where you feel like you totally messed up something..try talking to people who really can have a heart to heart. You need people in your lives who can listen, understand and then give you just the right boost to move on feeling better than ever. There is too much negativity in the world and parenting needs to be left out of it. You haven’t failed as a parent, it can be overwhelming at times..failure, success and the art of not failing are three separate things and we have the right to acknowledge them as separate entities. Failure is if my kids are in bed wondering if I love them.

You’re not failing if you’re 15 minutes late to school.
You’re not failing if you had cereal for dinner Or if you felt like you needed to run away..there will be days when you will wonder if you’re even cut out for parenting. It’s not success, but, it sure isn’t failure.  It’s human and it’s ok. There is no such thing as perfect parents, so just be a real one. There are all kinds of parents in the world but there is no such thing as a bad parent. Let’s stop being so judgmental. Let parents be!

At least 10 times a day, I wonder what I’m doing wrong and completely disregard everything I’ve done right but then again that one thing that I did right overshadows everything else and helps me sleep peacefully…by the way isn’t it beautiful just watching the little ones sleep 🙂

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Parenting truly brings out the best in us. As they say until you’ve wiped a tiny butt clean, you wouldn’t know what love is. So if any of you is feeling a little low today, fess up. Take a 15 minute break and then carry on being a parent. If you need to talk I’m here 🙂

HUGS

 

 

Celebrating Fathers!

 

They say, A father’s love is just as important to a child’s development as a mother’s, and sometimes more so. Father’s are unsung heroes! They work really hard to give us the life that we live and the person we become.  Through all the joy, the love, the care…we want to take this day and cherish our fathers by telling them that they matter more than they know, that we love them more than we show. That their presence alone makes all the difference in our lives. The comfort, love, strength we get from our heroes is much more than we ever imagined and we are immensely proud to have each one of you in our lives. To all fathers out there! 🙂

As they say :

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Today, we bring you the most heartfelt wishes to celebrate this day and to tell our fathers how much they mean to us.

Mayah Essam Khattak: (Daughter of Mr & Mrs. Essam Khattak)

Baba,  You are my first best friend, my biggest advocate, my pillar of strengths, my partner in crime, my secret-keeper (specially from Ma) my hero, my king… What more could any girl want? Happy Father’s Day. Love, Mayah

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Farwa Hussain Khan:

Today when we can see and hear that everyone is taking out time to wish all the amazing fathers in the world, I want to give a massive shoutout to my wonderful Father who has been my King since day one. Thank you Father for all the times you did not reach like a father but as my best friend. Thank you for always giving me shoulder to cry on. Thank you for letting me know my worth. And most of all thank you for raising me like a princess. Today, I want to tell you that I adore you and I love you but other than that I respect you so much because you’ve raised me in such a way which I’m sure that no other could, no other man can, no other man will. I will always be your little princess and you’ll always be my King.

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Talha Zahid:

My dad is a friend of mine, he is what any boy can ask for. He never lets me down and he does more then in his power to make me happy. I am the luckiest guy ever to have a father this amazing. Love him to bits

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Sabrina Shigri:

There have been ample times I doubted myself and was scared of failure but my dad has been a constant support through countless mood swings to just be okay with well i guess life in general.

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Raza Ahmed Sukhera:

If I count the most impacting feelings of my life, my father holding my hand, garbing me upwards while climbing to the train when we were leaving from Lahore I was hardly 5 or 6 years old I guess. Then one day we both were sitting at tube well in-front of our home and I can still feel the sound of water pumping out along-with his voice inquiring how much semesters are left of my graduation. I felt like he was tired. There have been lot of ups and downs since he left, and now I feel that these ups and downs would have been less fatigued, less horrifying if he would have been with us. Always miss him, specially on little achievements, little appreciations I receive.

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Aly Sher Khan:

“Thank you baba! For being a mountain in our lives. without you nothing would have been possible!”

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Asher Dewan:

Happy father’s day . God bless you with good health and long life .

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Usman Mukhtar: 

Thank you for the comfort of knowing that whatever goes wrong, I have a dad who can fix it. Happy Father’s Day!!

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Ali Mahboob:

I am what I am today because of you and I can’t thank you enough. You will always be my hero, my strength! Happy Father’s day!

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Saleha Raza:

My first love and my ideal and how I imagine all the men in the world to be as dedicated about their relationship as he has always been ! He always supported us in every walk of life, whether it was decisions concerning education or lifelong decision like getting married.
I love my Dad to the moon and back !!!

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What Is A Dad?

A dad is someone who
wants to catch you before you fall
but instead picks you up,
brushes you off,
and lets you try again.

A dad is someone who
wants to keep you from making mistakes
but instead lets you find your own way,
even though his heart breaks in silence
when you get hurt.

A dad is someone who
holds you when you cry,
scolds you when you break the rules,
shines with pride when you succeed,
and has faith in you even when you fail…

 

Happy Father’s Day everyone!!

Regards,

Wings & Strokes