Update Your Mommy Checklist

Hey Mums! How are you all doing? In the middle of all the work, parenting and your regular chores..take a moment and pat yourself on the back. Just know that what you are doing for your kids, no one else can and that makes you the best Mom in the world!

This post is for new moms and moms who have been moms for quiet a while now 🙂


If you get lost somewhere in the middle of your daily routine and feel like whenever you step out with family, you either forget the wipes or extra clothes at home for the little one or maybe you forgot to carry extra water..I know this can be overwhelming and its perfectly okay to forget at times (though it seems like the end of the world most of the times).

A well-stocked diaper bag can save the day. But what do you really need in there? It depends on how old your child is, how long you’ll be out, where you’re going, and how prepared you want to be or like to be.

Let’s look at the basics. You can print this out and put it somewhere on the fridge or on your baby’s cupboard so that you don’t forget anything.

The essentials
Diapers
One for each hour you’ll be out, plus a few extra – just in case.

Wipes
You can stick ten or so in a plastic bag if you’re not going out for long. Wipes are perfect not just for diaper changes, but also for sticky hands and dirty surfaces.

Hand sanitizer
For cleaning your hands after diaper changes when there’s no time or place to wash them.

Changing pad
Many diaper bags come with a reusable changing pad, or you can buy one separately. Some parents like the disposable ones for traveling. A hand towel from home will also do.
Plastic or biodegradable bags
For storing soiled diapers, clothes, and baby blankets. Just make sure your child can’t get to them, since plastic bags (including the biodegradable versions) pose a suffocation risk.

Snacks for old babies and toddlers.
Very useful when you can’t stop in the middle of nowhere to feed your little one. Could also prove beneficial to soothe a tantrum or unnecessary crying while you are driving.

Sippy cup of milk, water, or juice (for toddlers)

Extra clothes for your child
You never know when spit-up, drool, spills, or poop explosions will necessitate a change of clothing.

Blanket
You can use it to cover your baby or as a changing pad, nursing cover, bib, shade, or burp cloth. Always comes in handy.

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Moving on from Bag Essentials to Mommy and Me Essentials.

Most of the time we forget the little things that are actually the most important things on a parents checklist. I say this for Moms and Dads, both. These are more for older kids. I have three of my own, two girls (7 and 2.5) and one boy (1 year old).

  • Your kids need tons of hugs and kisses.
  • Say I love you to your kids at least 3 times a day.
  • Ask them how their day was?
  • Use polite words and set an example for your child to follow.
  • Let your child choose what he wants to eat when you dine out.
  • Ask about your child’s friends.
  • Tell them you are proud of them.
  • Encourage them to help with chores around the house starting with cleaning up their own toys and colours.
  • Do one activity together each day, be it coloring, painting, cycling, skating, reading or anything at all.

Your kids are watching you two more than they watch anyone else. Make sure you leave a good example for them to follow. Say I love you to your partner in front of your children, they need to see and feel that. Hug each other. Smile at each other. Respect each other. Make time for each other.

If you need someone to talk to, I’m here.

Much love!

 

Being a parent

Parenting isn’t easy..it is the hardest but the most rewarding, the most beautiful experience of our lives. It comes with the most insane unexpected challenges as well as moments that literally fill our hearts with so much emotion and happiness that it seems unreal.

I’m Sonya and I’m a Mom of three wonderful children. I had my first kid when I was 25..My eldest is 6, younger than her is 2 and a half and the youngest just turned 1 yesterday. That makes it two girls and one boy. If I could sum up my life in a few words. I would say my life is beautiful! and it’s beautiful because of these three amazing little humans in my life.

I’m literally on a roller coaster every single day of my life and I’m sure many of you can relate to it. In the middle of waking them up, preparing breakfast, packing lunch boxes, sending one to school, keeping the other two entertained at home, getting the house cleaned up, making lunch, getting the laundry out of the way, ironing, putting the little one to sleep like almost 5 times a day, changing pampers, washing bottles, dealing with tantrums, sibling fights, guests, evening activities, story times, homework, cartoon time, showers, fixing cupboards, doing the dishes, making dinner, wiping tears, healing the bruises, giving lots of hugs throughout the day, making beds, keeping things around the house organized at all times, grocery, let’s not forget the criticism we get from everywhere and countless other things that I can’t even think of right now because by the time I’m done I feel like my brain has stopped working. This is the life of a Mom..that’s just how it is. No I’m not a perfect pinterest Mom, I’m a regular Mom who is on the verge of tears at least once a day but still puts a huge smile on her face and moves on embracing the beauty of it because hey! that’s what real parenting feels like. Would I change anything about it? No! I love my kids sooooo much that its impossible to explain.

It’s A LOT of hard work..it is also A LOT of fun!! I mean would you want to miss even a single smile or giggle or mischief or anything at all that comes with the whole parenting package. My 2nd born asks 1 question like 50 times a day but what can I say..its clearly too important for that little human in my life 🙂

Once you reach that point where you feel like you totally messed up something..try talking to people who really can have a heart to heart. You need people in your lives who can listen, understand and then give you just the right boost to move on feeling better than ever. There is too much negativity in the world and parenting needs to be left out of it. You haven’t failed as a parent, it can be overwhelming at times..failure, success and the art of not failing are three separate things and we have the right to acknowledge them as separate entities. Failure is if my kids are in bed wondering if I love them.

You’re not failing if you’re 15 minutes late to school.
You’re not failing if you had cereal for dinner Or if you felt like you needed to run away..there will be days when you will wonder if you’re even cut out for parenting. It’s not success, but, it sure isn’t failure.  It’s human and it’s ok. There is no such thing as perfect parents, so just be a real one. There are all kinds of parents in the world but there is no such thing as a bad parent. Let’s stop being so judgmental. Let parents be!

At least 10 times a day, I wonder what I’m doing wrong and completely disregard everything I’ve done right but then again that one thing that I did right overshadows everything else and helps me sleep peacefully…by the way isn’t it beautiful just watching the little ones sleep 🙂

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Parenting truly brings out the best in us. As they say until you’ve wiped a tiny butt clean, you wouldn’t know what love is. So if any of you is feeling a little low today, fess up. Take a 15 minute break and then carry on being a parent. If you need to talk I’m here 🙂

HUGS